【海外の反応】男はなぜキモい奴に気づかないのか、女の日常が別ゲーすぎた

I didn't notice their prevalence until I started dating a very attractive woman. Before her, I was aware of creeps but only through second-hand stories. Never had any first-hand encounters, or perhaps didn't ever notice or register them in public. No one's creeping on me after all, and I guess previous partners didn't draw as much attention? But dating her- oh my god.. Strangers always staring, weird comments from people passing by, uncomfortable interactions. Hit on everywhere she goes. I witnessed some man walk up and take these weird ass unsolicited pictures of her in public once, while I'm right next to her. She really opened my eyes to the extreme end of it.

I’m male but I used to run an online dating site so I have some unique insight into this. Men are MUCH MUCH creepier when they think they are only around one women than they are when other men are around. Shockingly so. Guys basically code switch between “appropriate way to act when others can witness me” and “only the girl and I are party to this conversation”. 

I also used to travel with a larger group of attractive women and the amount of cat calling and just totally inappropriate behavior that would happen near constantly was eye opening. 

If I hadn’t been exposed to this sort of behavior with an insiders perspective I would have had no idea and thought women were over exaggerating or blaming all mankind for something only a rare few men actually do. 

But nah it’s kind of scary out there for women. There’s all these guys that act nice and then rip the masks off when you’re alone and they’re all stronger than you so you have to reject them in a way that gets them off your back without bruising their ego or they’ll possibly get crazy. As a guy I don’t have to worry about any of that stuff. It makes me understand a bit better why women sometimes react the way they do to approaches from men. 

I was at a party at a bar a few years ago and noticed this man being…weird. Not creeping on anyone, just acting a little odd. I told my boyfriend and male friends to keep an eye out for him cause he was going to be an issue at some point and we should keep our distance. None of them noticed anything wrong with the man, some even said they thought he was fine.

Within the hour he was kicked out for being shitfaced and trying to start a fight.

So no, men don't notice. As others have said, they aren't the target so they don't see it. But it goes beyond that; never being a target makes them less able to see subtle red flag behavior that women tend to notice, even if the person is being dangerous to other men.

The creeps in question are not being creeps to the men you're asking about, so no, they often do not notice. A lot of people are not paying close attention to everyone else's interactions.

What your brain chooses to notice is based on the perceived threat level. Since creepy dudes aren't creepy towards men they usually go unnoticed. If there were shady dudes looking like they might mug me I would notice.

They aren't the ones getting creeped on, so they aren't conditioned to watch for it like we are.

I've noticed a few in public.

One was groping a random woman in the street. Another was having a wank in the street next to a teenage girl with a short skirt. 

One time I literally got catcalled while walking side by side with a male friend and it was a very pointed and nasty one, it could not have been directed at anyone else in the vicinity.

I said to my friend something like "I'm so sick of this bullshit" and he said "what?" Like as if the vulgarity was delivered at a frequency he couldn't hear, he did not register it at all. I stopped, pointed to the guy who yelled it, repeated what he said and my friend genuinely did not hear or notice a thing it was like asking if he noticed one car's horn in traffic was slightly out of tune. Baffling.