【海外の反応】容姿がいいって実際どんな感じ？64kg痩せた男が語る「扱いの違い」がリアルすぎる

you notice how differently people treat you… and how quickly it disappears the moment you stop playing along

I don’t think I am attractive but I’ve been told that I am. I lost like 140 lbs and every 20lbs lost or so I get more compliments. Here are some key differences I have noticed.
1. When I was bigger people were less fake-nice to me.

2. If I flirted with someone before they would find me creepy. Now people will think I’m flirting with them when I’m not. This has made for extremely uncomfortable situations.
3. People are more helpful. Hold the door, let me cut the line, get something off of a high shelf. I don’t think it’s intentional but being more attractive does make me seem more approachable.
4. I’ll be told I have a “great outfit on” but it’ll be the same outfit that I wore when I was bigger and was told I look like a “slob”.
5. I’m not taken as seriously. I am an accountant and I swear people preferred taking advice from me when I was fatter than now.
6. People remember my name more often than not

Like I said I don’t think I am attractive but I can compare being less attractive to now. I wouldn’t know what it is like to be a 10/10

idk if i'm "attractive" but i've noticed people are way nicer when i put effort into my appearance vs when i roll up to class in sweats with no makeup.

Wrong place to ask

People you don’t know are nicer, but the people you do know have a tendency to get insecure/jealous.

I've never been at the extreme top end but I've experienced being unattractive and invisible to being very good looking and everything in between (I'm a guy). It's a spectrum – the better looking you get the better society treats you in general.

A few things (not exhaustive by any means):

1. You catch a lot of stares from both men and women. You'll be minding your business and feel like someone is looking and sure enough, you look up to see them. Sometimes they'll keep staring, usually women will down or away immediately.
2. Strangers get a lot closer to you. On public transport, in shops etc. You notice women, sometimes in pairs, will stand really close to you but in my case they usually wouldn't talk, just get really close and flick their hair or talk really loudly to each other hoping you notice them and strike up a conversation.
3. If you're with friends and the most attractive in the group, if someone else (man or woman) comes to talk with the group for whatever reason, they'll tend to focus on talking to you only, ignoring your friends. I've experienced both sides of this (being the ignored friend and the one getting all the attention)
4. I've been wolf whistled/cat called by women in public a few times. They were always in a group. Twice they were driving past in a car and once they were all sitting on a park bench drunk after a night out.
5. You get touched a lot by random women in clubs, sometimes they'll come straight up to start dancing/trying to talk with you. A few times I was even approached and straight up invited home by random women I'd never met before when leaving the club at the end of the night (and these weren't unnattractive women either). Gay guys like to hit on you as well.
6. It's way easier to make friends with dudes (good looking guys are treated better by both men and women). You might talk with someone for 1 minute at a party/event, forget about it, and later on they're coming up to you asking for your socials.
7. You sometimes get attention and praise that you think is undeserved, and you start questioning whether the person actually likes you for you or if it's just the halo effect.
8. You still need to have confidence and charisma. Despite being good looking, I messed up a lot with interested women because I was still insecure and my internal mind hadn't caught up with my external appearance. No matter how good looking you are, confidence is still king.
9. That being said, confidence does come a lot easier when you've had tons of friends, family and complete strangers tell you how good looking you are. And that never goes away. Right now I've gained a bit of weight after an injury and lost muscle mass. But I have a baseline level of confidence because of my experiences that'll never go away. That I'm grateful for.

The flies won't leave me alone.

Pros:
– people will remember you even if you don't remember them
– people are more likely to consider you a friend even if you don't know them well
– people smile at you often and laugh at your jokes
– people will do favors for you, even without you asking
– job interviews often go well and you are likely to be chosen when among a group
– free things and discounts are given to you
– you can sometimes break/bend rules and get away with it
– babies stare at you and children like you

Cons:
– people will dislike you for seemingly no reason or try to humble you in other ways
– not being taken seriously at work
– men will think you're flirting with them when you are just being nice
– people invade your personal space or try too hard to become close with you
– complaining about anything about your appearance is seen as fishing for compliments
– some people only want to be your friend to make themselves look good
– having your identity tied to your looks can be harsh when they eventually fade

Kids under 10 generally want to hangout with you more and won't leave you alone. Also random people would be highkey rude because they automatically assume you're arrogant (a friend who was initially rude to me told me this was the reason she acted that way)